If I asked you what boudoir photography meant to you, what would you say?

The answer is going to vary widely, depending on who you ask, and what sexy means to you. The best part of it though, there isn’t a wrong answer.  For some, it’s being posed and photographed in a studio, with killer lighting, the perfect lingerie, and heels that make your legs look like they go for days. For some, it’s being at home, cooking breakfast with your lover in flannel pants, a t-shirt, and a pony tail. For some, it’s sinking up to your chin in a big ass bathtub full of bubbles singing along with the Prince that you have pumping through your headphones.

It was interesting reading through what the interwebs had to say about the definition of sexy, and the one that I ended up settling on for the purpose of this article is from Wikipedia, check it out.

Boudoir photography is a photographic style featuring intimate, romantic, and sometimes erotic images of its subjects in a bedroom or private dressing room environment, primarily intended for the private enjoyment of the subject and his or her romantic partners. It is distinct from glamour and art nude photography in that it is usually more suggestive rather than explicit in its approach to nudity and sexuality, features subjects who do not regularly model, and produces images which are not intended to be seen by a wide audience, but rather to remain under the control of the subject.

It is common for women to have boudoir photographs of themselves made as a gift to a partner, conventionally on the occasion of their engagement, marriage, or before an enforced separation such as a military deployment. Boudoir photography is also sometimes given as a gift with the intention of re-affirming and encouraging the romance and sensuality between partners in a long-term relationship.

Increasingly, boudoir photography is seen as something that a person might do purely for their own enjoyment, for the pleasure and affirmation of seeing themselves as attractive, daring, sensual, and sexually-desirable. – Wikipedia.

Intimate Lifestyle & Boudoir

Pretty sure that if I told you that not only was I going to get you in front of my camera, but that I was then going to tell you to take off all of your clothes first, you’d balk, and in a real big way. Aaaaaaand if that wasn’t enough, then I’m going to tell you that you should bring your partner with you, and they’ll do the same, that most people would look at me like I’d grown a second nose, or that I’d suddenly sprouted a second set of eyes in the back of my head.

Hear me anyhow.

Overt sexuality, especially from women, has been a taboo in our culture for a really long time. You hear it allllll the time. Probably sounds something like this…

“Well what was she wearing? She was probably asking for it” 

False. If you’re comfortable in something, wear it. Rock it. NO ONE is ever ‘asking for it’ based on what they’re wearing, and EVERYONE damn sure has the right to say no, whenever they want to.

“What did she expect, dressing like that” 

She expected to be treated like a human being with thoughts, feelings, opinions, emotions, and the ability to do with her body whatever she wanted.

“Pull up your shirt, your cleavage is showing” 

This one is especially triggering for me, as I’ve heard it MY. ENTIRE. LIFE. Here’s the thing about that.  The effects of being told to cover up, constantly, and that you clearly aren’t able to dress yourself, it takes a big and lasting toll on a persons self esteem and self worth, over something that they’re most likely already self conscious of.

“Cover your bra straps, they’re showing” 

Uh….. so?

“Isn’t that a little revealing?” 

This one gets me all kinds of wound up too. It’s always posed as a question, and it NEVER is. There’s always a slightly raised eyebrow and snide side eye that accompanies it, and the message of “hey, I think that you look like a ‘ho” comes across LOUD and clear.

“They’re going to judge you. You shouldn’t do that at your size.”

Thanks for the unsolicited opinion you a$$hole. So what if someone judges you for being confident? They’re not someone that you want in your life anyhow.

“She must be really insecure if she needs that kind of attention from men.”

HA! Oh is that so? Let’s see you rock this ensemble Linda. Now, let’s see you do it and look relaxed in it. That’s what I thought.

“That dress is a little short, don’t you think?”

Sure is. That’s why I wore it.

“it’s so sad that she feels like she has to dress like that”

It’s so sad that you have nothing better to do in your life than judge mine, but hey, I’ll still thank you for the press and word of mouth.

“your legs are so long that you really can’t wear short dresses like other girls”

Well you should see what they look like when I’m in a bathing suit then, ’cause I can promise that this short dress covers more of them than that.

 Here’s the thing though. F*CK ALL OF THAT.

The most common refrain that I hear from people, both men and women, when they find out that I’m a boudoir photographer as well is “I’m not sexy. I could never do that.” False. You absolutely are sexy, you’re just not thinking of yourself that way.  I went to urbandictonary.com to see what they had to say about the definition of the word, and it illustrates perfectly how varied, and how subjective the definition really is.

Click [HERE] to check it out, and make sure that you read all of them.

Your boudoir or intimate lifestyle session isn’t one that you show up for, shoot your one hour, and be on your way. I don’t work like that. The entire the session is designed around you, and what you feel sexy in. For some, that’s leather, straps, and ball gags. Others, it’s a white cotton nightie that’s soft from years of washing. Others, it’s their partners work shirt, backwards baseball hat, and nothing else. Your session is built around you, and at no point will you be left feeling like you’re guessing as to what to bring with you, or what to expect.

We’ll work together, from the time you first inquire about booking through the end of your ordering session.

What is sexy to one person may not be to another, and that’s the beauty of our world. Thank God we don’t all like the same things. Variety is truly the spice of life.

The human form has been the subject of art for centuries. Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of years, so why is it something that’s still getting society’s feathers all ruffled? It’s the bottom line. All kinds of industries would collapse if we as a collective whole embraced our bodies and their beauty.

Sexuality is powerful and confidence is sexy.

Let me show you how sexy you really are, whether it’s through an in studio boudoir session, an in home intimate lifestyle session on your own, or one with your lover.

Let me show you how powerful you really are.

Interested? Let’s talk, and design something specifically to celebrate your sexy.

Click  [HERE] to reach out, I can’t wait to hear from  you.